Is it OK to fake an Orgasm?

Is there something wrong with a woman that has not experienced an

orgasm?

These are a couple of questions that I have been getting asked more

and more, so I thought why not address them through my articles? As

much as I have written this for my ladies, men you can benefit from

reading this little bit of info also!

There is nothing physically wrong with women that have not experienced

the big O! They simply just have not learned how. It is very much a

mental exercise as well as physical. Way back when..., we were taught

that it was a bad thing to touch ourselves (masturbate). That was a

big wrong turn for a lot of women. I have read a lot of letters from

women that tell me that they were in their late 20`s before they ever

experienced an orgasm, one that they would consider an orgasm anyway.

This is why I express over and over, ladies learn about YOUR BODY!

Orgasms are very connected to ones mind when dealing with the female.

If you are worried or tired or feeling a bit at odds with your

partner, that door is definitely going to be locked, even nailed shut.

It will take some work and patience to find the key to open up that

mind trap.

Too many women spend way too much time worrying about orgasms. Worry

only puts up the walls that will totally disable your mind to relax

and float. Think of watching and waiting for water to boil. By the

time it has boiled you have lost interest. Or when you are trying to

call someone and the line is forever busy, that just frustrates you to

no end. If you would have just carried on with something else at the

time, the water would have boiled before you knew it, the phone line

would be cleared, and you would be frustration free! Orgasms work in

very much the same way. Do not think about them. Do prepare for them,

feel your body call them, desire them, fantasize, open your mind up to

a total zone of passion. Pure thoughtless passion!

Some women feel that if they do not orgasm, their partner will feel

that they have failed them, or vice verse. (GUILT) There is

absolutely no room for guilt or shyness in the arena of sex! This is

one of the reasons women FAKE the O! It does not do any real physical

harm to fake most things in life. The only one that is losing out

though, is you. You are fooling no one but yourself. Then you end up

feeling even worse because you pretended at a time when you should be

open and real.

There is also the time thing. Women are in need of more stimulation

and time to relax and be able to find their zone. Men tend to think

that five minutes is just super...NOT...so ladies this is where

communication comes into play. You must tell your man that NO, I am

not there yet. I know this sounds bossy, but most men hardly ever have

a problem telling the women what to do in bed and when to not stop.

Also ladies please tell your man to do like the yellow pages

commercial, "Let your fingers do the walking". Women like and need the

finger play. Also ladies if your man is just down there asap...tell

him to slow down. This can also throw women off when they are feeling

rushed.

When you are close to your partner and feel that sex is in the air,

enjoy even just the kiss at first. I mean really enjoy just the kiss.

Allow your body to warm up and get your juices flowing. Or really feel

his touches, and listen to your partners voice when he says your name.

If he never says your name, tell him too. He will oblige immediately.

Tell him you want to hear him admire your body. A women on the norm

has a hard time verbalizing what she likes. This is just because we

were raised to be nice girls. Well, TALK! You will be surprised at how

much more relaxed you become and excited once you can talk to your

partner about touching where and how. Tell your partner to join you in

that little game. A women's body will react very nicely if you just

allow the feelings of a kiss to penetrate you.

Another turn on for you ladies is to touch yourself while your partner

watches. Yes, you will love it once you allow him into your world. He

will not say no to that request. To see or hear how excited he gets

watching you enjoying your body is another very big turn on for you.

This is also a very good way to keep your mind away from the, "will I

or won`t I" question. Think of anything but the ultimate O!

G-spot orgasms are pretty easy to reach. We can get there as easy as

men have the ability to get hard. To get there just tell your man to

do the, "walking". Or take his hand and guide him down to where your

body is wanting his touch. G-Spot orgasms feel nice and they are

basically our juice fountain, that is when we get very wet. This is

when your body prepares for penetration.

It is the clitoral Orgasm that most women are after. Those ones will

shake your ground. But again, these are mind connected. I will say I

am speaking for the norm of women. Every women is different to a

degree, but we are basically after the same thing. We all want to feel

that intense vibration and the total body rush that runs through our

body. It is an adrenaline rush like no other. To know we have that

kind of control in our minds and bodies also boosts our self-esteem!

That my Ladies is a very good thing!

Some women are sensitive enough that they will react instantly to a

touch. That is not always that good. Her orgasm at that point will be

quick and over before she even gets to really appreciate it. The

longer it takes to reach that ,"O" Zone, the more intense the orgasm.

That is another reason you want to learn to control your body.

Eventually you will be able to tell your mind when and where!

A very, very good way to learn about your body is to bring yourself to

orgasm. I tell women that all the time. You need to know and be able

to connect with your own mind before you can allow someone to do it

for you. Once you can learn to control your minds ability to fantasize

or totally zone out, your body will follow naturally. Ladies again, it

is so important to learn this because it keeps your mind off whether

or not the O is going to happen. Once you have learned about your

body, you will be able to bring that O on yourself just with your

mind. A little hand stimulation is also your minds best friend here.

You will know how much stimulation you will need at the time. You will

eventually know your entire body`s secret passages to feeling. Yes!

Very yummy. So my words here, are to get to know your secrets.. and

HAVE FUN!

Remember Ladies, men are not born with your road map to orgasm. First

you need to draw it for him. Then show it to him. From there it is

totally the big," O" every time. This is my recipe to the one thing

that women can do over and over again, without a rest period. Ha!!

Sorry guys, we were born that way.

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Laughter and Orgasms are Great Bedfellows John Callahan

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When modern woman discovered the orgasm, it was combined with modern

birth control, perhaps the biggest single nail in the coffin of male

dominance. Eva Figes